Victimization: Poor Me Syndrome

I swear to you, every day I hear someone whining or complaining that they were "wronged" in some way or another. "I quit my job because I wasn't treated fairly". "I cannot lose weight, and I am trying everything!" "The world is out to get me!" "Why me?"

Yep! Any of this sound familiar? It does to me. I've said them. I know you hear the same stuff. I've been there. I know what this feels like. I used to be that person, still am on occasion. Heck I may even be saying these same things to you! No one can throw a pity party like I can. Trust me. I've thrown some doozies.

What did it help? How did the wallowing in self deprecation help me in any way, shape or form? IT DIDN'T! Enough already. Everyone on this planet can have a bad day from time to time. It happens. However continual bad days, weeks, months or even years is not helping those around you, and it certainly is NOT HELPING YOU!

A constant state of fear, denial and stress is bad for you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It lowers your immune system making you susceptible to dis-ease. It puts strain on personal relationships too. Let's face it. Who wants to be around "that" person all the time? Who wants Debbie Downer as a friend? If this person sounds like you, I urge you to take a good and long look in the mirror. The reason why you are this way is because of YOU!

You, and only you can change how you feel or react to a situation. Someone wronged you? Forgive them. Someone not living up to their end of the bargain? Forgive them. Stop the poor me syndrome and being the victim.. If you are constantly unhappy in your job, marriage, friendship or whatever, it's time to take a good hard look at yourself. What is it about YOU that is making the situation this way? Make some changes.

Our mindset can either make or break us in life. Constantly being in a downward spiral will continually bring bad things to you. Remember, you need to be careful what you say and do because you are constantly manifesting these things. Don't want something? Stop thinking about how much you don't want that and think about what you DO want. Our thoughts are constantly becoming our realities...... think wisely.

It seems once we start feeling like a victim, it can spiral out of control VERY quickly. We start to doubt ourselves, our family, our friends, everyone and everything around us.

Enough with the victim mentality. Onward and upward. Victimization never served anyone. Ever. When I say victim, I am not talking about sexual assault or things of that nature. I am talking about self-talk and the projection of our minds into our personal reality.

I know this sounds harsh. I am not sorry. I am saying this to you because you need to hear it. This was me. This is still me some days. I have chosen to fight back against my own ego and negative self talk to rise above and be the person I am truly destined to be. YOU CAN TOO!

Wasn't it Albert Einstein who said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” Stop doing the same shit over and over again. Do somthing different to get a better result.

Everything is a lesson we can learn from! Practice gratitude. Don't know where to start? Name 3 things you are genuinely grateful for. Then, name 3 things you are looking forward to or 3 people in your life that have been a positive influence. You really can retrain your brain. It is going to take some work! It's ok because I know you are up for the challenge! YOU GOT THIS!

I challenge you to name 3 things you are grateful for today! Can't think of anything? How about you woke up today and are able to read this blog. That means you are alive, you are educated and you have access to the internet. 3 excellent things to be thankful for.

As always, I am open to suggestions for blogs to write and of course comments. My door is always open. I have resources I can put you in touch with should you truly need help. It takes a village. You are not alone. You can reach me at melissa@sweetwillowspirit.com. Sending you love and healing.

Love and light,

Melissa